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There are so many things that I find myself failing at and mostly it happens as a result of my lips; blame my unending desire for words. Being human, our mouths always land us in trouble even before our actions, yeah? I almost thought it is something we say but when I read it in the Book of James I was like “Here we go Lord…your word is undeniably true and relevant in every situation” James 3:2 “We all fail in many areas especially with our words. Yet if we are able to bridle the words we say, we are powerful enough to control ourselves in every way…and that means our character is mature and fully developed.” Reading the book of Proverbs has been handing me shots of humility that have been too bitter for my liking but that’s where an invitation for transformation is birthed. A wise person ponders their words.” In the multitude of words, sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise.”  Proverbs 10:19. 

The basic raw material of life is word in all its forms: thought, spoken and written.”

Misunderstandings always stem from what we say, or how we say it (the tone) and even the choice of the words we go for. I remember reading somewhere that in every conversation, the words said by another person are not always what we hear and the words we say aren’t always what are heard by the other person. In between there is always an alteration; blame the air waves or something. I have had to apologize even when I didn’t initially see the harm in my words and I have equally had to pause and try to understand the words of someone else. Words are a gift but can be the cause of arguments and I love how Proverbs urges us to slow down on  words.Even a fool is deemed wise when he learns to shut up.” Proverbs 17:28 

A man will eat well by the fruit of his mouth. Proverbs 12:14 and Proverbs 13:2 . What fruit are you preparing? 


  • Are my thoughts right? Proverbs 12:5
  • Are the words of my mouth a well of life? Proverbs 10:11
  • Is my tongue choice silver? Proverbs 10:20
  • Do my lips feed? Proverbs 10:21
  • Do my lips know what is acceptable ? Proverbs 10:32
  • Does the word of my mouth bring forth wisdom? Proverbs 10:31


“The beginning of strife is like releasing water…therefore stop contention before a quarrel starts.” Prov 17:14. 

Being visual is one of the ways I enjoy my Bible Study and this image stuck with me  (definitely a cleaner version than the one I drew up in my journal) but it helped me soak in the magnitude of just how things can get out of hand during an exchange . The MSG Bible puts it so simply “The start of a quarrel is like a leak in a dam, so stop it before it bursts.”One minute, it starts off as a simple offloading of what we feel and before we know it, we are at the edge of a risky fall that will crush


It takes humility, dying to self and the empowering of the Holy Spirit to put aside our justified opinions in arising arguments. I have seen it first hand how it gets out of control and it weighs down greatly on the state of our hearts as well as the relationships. Our pride, that seems so natural to us, is the cause of such strife..nothing good will always come out of it.

“Words are the flour and yeast that make the bread of life,” Unknown

Our hands may not directly shed blood but our words kill the hope, the dreams and the confidence of those around us. Our lips have been tools of destruction and we pass them off as mere words. Words can be used as weapons. Verbal abuse is not just name-calling. Research shows that one of the most significant contributors to poor mental and physical health is the misuse of words. Words can cause strife or heal. Proverbs 18:21

Like Matthew 12:34 states that our mouth speaks out of the abundance of our hearts. Ideally that’s it but words have a way of even going ahead of us. We must speak with words that are coated in love, respect, gentleness, humility and encouragement.The Word of God is rich in the sweetness of words and that is the manual we refer to. Soak in it and flood your heart with good thoughts. “A loving heart produces a gracious tongue. Jon Bloom.

How are you using your words? Make it a fountain of life. Today and days to come. Pray Psalms 141:3 Set a guard O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips.”

Stay anchored and let His light shine through



  1. And you know words once said can not be taken back… And sometimes a great undoing in our journey of faith… In my career as a teacher am praying Psalms 141:3 since am handing young souls,teenagers and i bet my words can build or destroy them. God bless you Chebet

    1. Yeeees. Joan, you are in one of the most important spaces where words impact! Thank you for sharing and praying over you that God will use you to speak life in that teaching space!
      God bless you

  2. Wow what a read! I am reminded of what I read yesterday from Toby Mac quotes…
    The tongue has no bones but is strong enough to break a heart,so mind your words…
    Thanks so much dear this is a sobre read challenging me to mind my words..may God continue using you to build the body of Christ.

    1. “The tongue has no bones but is strong enough to break a heart.” ?? Somebody better have this on a plaque.
      God help us mind our words

      Amen Pastor Pam!❤❤

      1. First of all I applaud the catchy title of this blog…the term verbal assasination took me back to law class where this vice could be likened to defamation which is punishable under the laws of our land Kenya. Words are the flour and yeast that make the bread of life..this is so true because God used words to create life. I have been blessed reading this.
        God bless you as you continue being a light❤❤

        1. Thank you dear. For a second; I felt I was in a law class ha ha
          God used words to create life……yeees

          Thank you dear… for your feedback.❤❤❤?

  3. Today’s article reminds me of something that I read during my devotion this morning from Proverbs 14:7 that says “The words of the wise are like weapons of knowledge, if you need a wise counsel stay away from a fool” and it’s so in sync with today’s message.

    We should learn how to filter what we say to others because it can either build or destroy them. Also we should stay away from people who don’t speak words of life in our lives. Thank you for this great reminder.


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